[VIDEO] Making Homeschooling During COVID-19 Easier
“If you find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.”
Frank A. Clark
Well isn’t this going to be a different type of post! This will be the first post that my 9-year-old daughter, Whitney, will collaborate with me on. Well, she is going to give me some material to use and I am going to write it up. It is also going to be vastly different, because we are going to try and film and embed a video of us talking about this “stuff”. At this point, you should be wishing us .. errrr, ME, luck!
Whitney is a magical child (don’t we all think that of our kids, as their parents?). She is incredibly smart; she cares greatly for the underdog and will stand up for any injustice that is felt; she is massively creative; and has always had very different interests that are beyond captivating to me (i.e. interests that I never had as a child, nor do I have now).
HOWEVER. (That is a BIG however.) Whitney and I are so perfectly matched but so perfectly unmatched, that our relationship is sometimes tenuous.
You know me – perfectionist, type-A, puts my best foot forward, gives it my all always, works hard and is determined .. mmhmm. Well, Whit ISN’T that. She is innately smart, but could CARE LESS if you know it. Her attitude is, she doesn’t need to prove it to you or anyone else (not even to her teacher). She doesn’t often do her best work, like, ever, and she is 100% fine with sub-par. That injustice piece of her personality also rears its ugly head at inopportune times, because it isn’t FAIR that Emmy’s (her 4-year-old sister) work is easier. And, it isn’t FAIR because her best friend doesn’t find this work as challenging. Or, it isn’t FAIR that the other group got easier spelling words.
You can absolutely imagine how all of this goes when she is in a home with a teacher for a mother, first and foremost, and a teacher mom who expects 100% every.single.darn.time. NO.EXCUSES.
In thinking about all of this loveliness – while I am now fully homeschooling her due to COVID-19 (thanks Corona), I decided that maybe I wasn’t the only one who felt this way, and maybe our trials and tribulations could help someone else. If nothing else, we wouldn’t all feel like we are on an island all by ourselves. I mean, after all, this is our mental health and mental contentment that we are talking about here. It’s kinda important.
So, with Whit being a child who does not want to work, and who does not find ANY value in education (although she has big dreams – she just thinks she is going to be able to muscle her way through them), I asked her what helps her most when she is working now that she is “working from home”. If she had to pick a small list of things that she does, or even could do, when she is getting frustrated at the work that she is “forced to do” (God forbid) what would she say?
First of all, she starred at me blankly. Spoiler alert – she doesn’t do anything except whine, cry (sometimes) and complain. But after we chatted about it a bit, she started thinking about things that she could tell other kids (or parents) that they could suggest, and even some things that SHE herself could use to make the time feel at work, more tolerable.
The following is going to be her list. BUT, it seemed to make sense to me, if I matched her list. So, for every suggestion she gives, I will give a suggestion of things I truly have and am implementing here, that makes the time pass a little more bearably. Because in case I haven’t said this to you yet, I don’t drink wine, so unlike many, I have no vices. Rookie mistake here.
Whitney’s Helpful Suggestions
- Take a break!
- Receive a reward
- Calm music or go somewhere quiet
- Or, if you prefer noise, put on Pop or Hip Hop music
- Before or after, draw or write something calm
Mom’s Helpful Suggestions
- YOU should take a break
- Sticker chart (heck yeah!)
- Have them (or you both) change locations
- Work first, then play
- Start with the work they dread the most (or is the hardest), first
Now, if my genius decides to come out, I am going to embed a video in this post where these suggestions will be discussed more at length. So, please! Watch our video! Comment on it, too! It is the first one we have ever done and would love to know if we should do more. And the video will hopefully elaborate the above lists for you in a fun, funny, informational way.
Laura Lee
I have three grandsons. One is extremely intelligent and we know that if he’s not challenged in school or if the teachers don’t keep his interest he’s going to be the trouble maker. And, he just turned 5! He thrives on structure and will put you in your place if you make a mistake – like reciting the colors of the rainbow in the incorrect order. Yeah he did that to a preschool teacher.
Sometimes I like giving the kids the easiest or shortest assignment first so they have a quick win and then go on to something more difficult.
Hillari
Ooh, yes! That is another great method. I very much agree – it definitely has to do with what works best for that individual child. Whitney would struggle with getting something done quickly and seeing it as a win, since once she is done with something, she simply wants to be DONE (if that makes sense). But there are definitely kids who would get more out of being able to hang their hat off from checking something off of their list. Thanks so much for reading!
Linda Egeler
What an important post! Remote-learning families everywhere can definitely relate. Now, I could use a tutorial on how you created such a great video.
Hillari
Oh my goodness, Linda, it was a STRUGGLE, haha! However, we recorded it in iMovie and then uploaded it to YouTube. From there we embedded it into our blog post. They recommend putting the video on some other platform and embedding it from there, because it would load waaaay too slowly if you went right from iMovie to WordPress. I hope that helps! π
Diane Kurzava
I love this! We don’t have kids at home that need schooling, but I have a daycare and having four different personalities every day is a challenge. One wants to learn, one wants to play, one wants to fight and one wants to snuggle!
Hillari
Oh my goodness, I can only imagine! Hats off to you for running a daycare – I 100% know that I could not do that <3
Debbie
I love that you two collaborated! Good advice!
Hillari
Thank you so much! π
Beth Shields
What a clever way to include your daughter. And I loved the comparison of the two. How interesting and what a great way to document this. It would be very interesting to ask kids what works (or worked when over) best for them. Thanks for sharing. Not sure if I am writing this to Whitney or mom – in any case, good job!
Hillari
Haha! Thank you! I will pass your message on to Whitney as well π
Tricia Snow
These are great tips! For someone who homeschooled as a choice removing the pressure is the first step to being successful.
Hillari
Whitney has asked me over and over again to truly homeschool her, but I knew from the get-go that I could NOT do that, lol. Now that she has experienced it some, I think she feels the same way π
Kirsten
Oh my goodness, this sounds like my daughter and me! Seriously. Thanks for these suggestions, because both of us really struggled today. She even whined when we were going to plan our trip this summer….she wanted to, but didn’t want to. (eye roll)
Hillari
Oh, I 100% understand this! It is so crazy when they balk at doing something that they ultimately want to do. Thank you so much for reading!
Holly
Great video! This will help so many to understand that educating our children is not always easy, and that parents need to be flexible. Because everyone learns differently!
Hillari
Absolutely! Even as a teacher I still find that I have to remind myself of this, and often. Thanks, Holly!
Eva Keller
Great idea to actually ask the kids what they want and need! Lots of people forget that.
Hillari
Agreed. It is definitely easier to simply dictate, but that often just makes the situation worse.
Carrie Cochran
This is so cute! But very helpful as well for parents who don’t know where to even start in all this!
Hillari
Thank you so much, Carrie!
Lisa Manderino
It is hard to be mom and teacher. I am struggling with these personality difference as well!
Hillari
Yes, yes, YES! It has to get better/easier eventually, right?
Rachel Da silva
Wow This is intense! Thanks for sharing
Hillari
Ahahaha! Typically when it is Whitney and I working together, it is intense, lol.
Santana
I always start with the hardest/worst thing first and save the best for last! It makes time seem faster as the day goes on. π
Hillari
I agree! And that is what she seems to want to do, most. She wouldn’t work well INTO the harder work – her frustration levels just wouldn’t let her.
Kendra
Ha! Every child is so unique! i love your daughter’s name, BTW. (My oldest is a Whitney too!) My 3 kids are so different in how they learn and how they function. It was fun to listen to Whitney’s point of view and what’s important to her. We loved sticker charts when our girls were young. They are both adults now. My youngest is 16, and we are struggling with boundaries with this whole situation. He chooses to stay up all night, sleep most of the day…and I’m trying to determine if this is a productive pattern for him or not. Yikes!
Hillari
Oh my gosh, it definitely sounds like you are dealing with your own frustrations on your end. And isn’t that funny – as much as we “wish through” whatever challenges we are encountering, it seems that each level has its own quirks that you need to find some work arounds for. Ohhhh, children π
Sara - Seek Discover Learn
I homeschooled my 4 kids for the past 6 years, and no two days are the same. Not only is each day different, but each child is different. They all have different learning styles, different things that motivate them, etc. I’ve been doing this for 6 years and still haven’t found a way to “perfect” it. You’re doing a great job – keep up the great work.
Hillari
Awww, thank you so much Sara! I ALWAYS said that I was NOT meant to homeschool my kids, nor was I meant to be a stay-at-home mom – I just knew I didn’t have the patience for it. Well, look at me now, haha. So, my hat is seriously off to you! I greatly value your thoughts and comment.
Charlene
As another teacher-turned-homeschool-mom-thanks-to-COVID19 I can relate to the challenges of conveying the importance of schoolwork to a child who could care less. You’re not alone! I loved your story!
Hillari
Oh my goodness, thank you so much, Charlene!! I think you hit the nail on the head – so much of this is everyone wanting to feel like they are not alone <3 Your comment made my whole morning.
Lee Anne
Love the suggestions! I find that our house filled with music gives me a little mental break!
Hillari
I love this! I often turn music on while we clean around the house – I should definitely find moments where I can incorporate it MORE!
Suzan | It's My Sustainable Life
Great video! Love your daughter’s perspectives as well π
Hillari
Thank you so much, Suzan! π
Shirley
Great video! It looks like Whitney is thriving at this video sharing thing. Love it!! Keep it up!
Hillari
Lol, I agree, Shirley! She seems to be made for it!
Maria Gustafsson
I can’t even imagine how challenging this is for all you parents. Personally I think it’s a magical feat that everyone is still alive LOL!!
Hillari
Ahahaha! True story, Maria!! There are good days and frustrating days – the key is, is to try and remember the good days the most π
Sandi
So many people choose to home school, I canβt imagine why!
Hillari
FOR REAL!!! I agree! Even as a teacher, I seriously COULD NOT homeschool.
Jen
I love this. It’s so important to try to understand our kids and know that they are all so different! Love that you’re working with her to come up with some solutions that she can agree with.
Hillari
Thank you so much!! Sometimes it is REALLY challenging to take a step back and make her part of the solution, but it always goes so much better when I do.
Tiffany
Great video! Part of me thinks I should do this with my boys! Then I remember who my boys are and there would be me beeping out a lot of my language. I’m not cut out for this homeschooling – we are all in the same crazy boat – but can’t wait for the kids to be back in the classroom as they thrive with their teachers!
Hillari
Most definitely [on all fronts]! I am just hoping, hoping, hoping that they can start back in the fall like normal.
Lisa
Great ideas! I love hearing from the perspective of the child.
Hillari
They can definitely be insightful if you give them the opportunity.
Angela
A big learning curve for us all. I think having them participate in not just the learning but the process really helps – only they know how they learn / what works. Kudos mom! (and daughter!!!!)
Hillari
Thank you so much, Angela!!
Pauline
Oh my gosh, I think your kid and my kid must be related. π My nine year old daughter sounds just like yours. But, for the first time in a long time, she’s really applied herself. She sets her alarm, gets up and eats and gets dressed. Then sets the alarm, does chores then school work. No prompting needed when it comes down to school work. Poor kid is devastated that there’s no school.
Hillari
Oh my goodness – could you please give me the secret?! I so wish Whitney had a turn-around like that, lol!
Cindy
Great input from both of you! I homeschooled my three kids, through 12th grade. But I chose to do so. I feel for everyone who has had this thrust upon them. You are making the best of it though!
Hillari
Thank you so much, Cindy. HUGE props to you on homeschooling them for so long! I am sure there were so many benefits to doing that.
Ruth Iaela-Pukahi
Whitney is like my kids! They are so smart that they don’t care if it’s not of any interest to them. I have 7 kids so it’s hard for me to hover and I don’t always catch what they aren’t doing. With the little ones, I’m trying to find ways to tie in fun learning than just on the computer or paper. Pajamas all day! Keeps the dirty laundry piles low but you are right my kids are not in a “working” mood. I love stickers…I wonder if it will work with my teenagers too. I too am an educator and I loved the video together and the tips you shared! So cute!
Hillari
Awww, thank you so much, Ruth! You have your hands full – HUGE props to you and juggling it all. You are a much stronger woman than I am, lol. And maybe I should try the pajama thing. That is a great idea!!